As we have explained in other blogs, the Little Honey stories are little vignettes from our early childhood and, while somewhat embellished, actually occurred. The goodwill we displayed as little girls towards each other and the world around us resulted in lasting benefits throughout our lives.

In early childhood, Angel (or Tara) was the quieter, more studious, very artistic and creative, yet less athletic, child while Little Honey (or Rachel) was the more rambunctious and physically active one with a penchant for telling stories.  We have a blog about sibling relationships and another one about how, in the Back Story, each child wanted to mirror the other.

Mirroring from parent to child and sibling to sibling is a healthy developmental stage.  As Tara and I grew from small children to young teens, we often enrolled in the same or similar activities, such as the YMCA Junior Leaders and gymnastics and, as the younger sibling, I followed Tara’s lead.

Yet during this time, both of us learned to lean into our individual talents. So, I didn’t become the gymnast that Tara was in high school and college but found playing other Varsity sports satisfying. Instead of teaching as a career which I loved doing, I went into law.  And when Tara started playing the drums, I took piano lessons.

Throughout our lifetime, we have moved away from being mirrors of each other but instead, to focus on our best talents while at the same time, supportive of each other.  So, it was an easy ask to see if Tara, who has such lovely artistic talent, would illustrate the Little Honey books.  And then she devoted so many of her creative talents to developing the Little Honey books, webpage, facebook page and other features of our books.

I will say that as the younger sibling, I have had the distinct advantage to follow my very creative, intelligent older sister, Tara. And it’s still happening now that we have entered our “golden” years.
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What is your relationship with your sibling(s)? How has it changed from childhood to adulthood?  Feel free to add your thoughts in the comments section below.  AND please stay tuned for Part II of this Blog in July 2023!

​At the end of each of our Little Honey Little Adventures stories, there is a list of Little Lessons. These lessons are for parents and grandparents to share with their little ones. Each list begins with a very obvious statement, with two progressively more serious lessons for discussion.
 
In The Baseball Story, the final lesson is on hard work and persistence, which we covered in our June 2021 blog. But there is another lesson in that book – how important it is to keep your eye on the ball. The idiom is meant literally in The Baseball Story. Little Honey knows the only way she will ever hit the baseball is if she keeps the ball in her line of sight. However, the expression may also be used to remind someone to pay attention to what is important and/or what may be happening in the current situation. In addition, it may be a way of suggesting that someone stay alert and be ready for possible and potential changes.
 
Little Honey was motivated by her desire to hit the baseball. So clearly, one of the most important steps in helping children with paying attention and staying focused is encouragement and inspiration. The good news is that paying attention is a skill that can be learned and gets better with practice. Preschool years are not too young to begin learning how to concentrate and focus as long as the expectations are appropriate for that age group. Children in that age group may only be able to handle 5-20 minutes of giving a task their full attention. In addition they will need to take breaks. They can also only manage one task at a time.
 
Just like adults, children find deep breathing helps them stay focused. It’s never too young to learn about mindfulness and self-awareness, especially since paying attention is not every youngster’s forte!
 
One classic picture book that may help teach children this skill is Blueberries for Sal that tells the story of a little girl who goes picking blueberries with her mother at the same time a mother bear and her cub are eating blueberries in the same patch. Because she is not paying attention, the little girl inadvertently begins to follow the mother bear rather than her own mother.
 
Do you know a book that can help teach children to pay attention? If so, feel free to share in the comments. We’d love to hear from you.
 
 

tIn The Back Story, Angel tries to be more adventurous and, in that way, more like Little Honey. She climbs up Little Honey’s favorite tree but falls, as she is descending, directly onto her back. That part of the story is enough to give the book its title. But there is more to the story. Little Honey tries to be more like Angel, by being gentle and compassionate. She not only goes for help after Angel falls, but kisses Angel’s back before her Daddy arrives on the scene to bring Angel to home.
 
One of the Little Honey’s Little Lessons for this book states, “When someone you love climbs too high, watch their back.” According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the phrase “watch someone’s back” is an idiom in our language and culture that has developed the following meaning - “to protect someone who is doing something that is dangerous or risky.” 
 
This is a complicated notion and yet Little Honey did what she could to watch her sister’s back, handling the dangerous situation well. How is it that a young child could learn the basics of protecting and caring for someone?
 
There are really two parts to this. In order for a child to feel competent to help someone else in a dangerous situation, they need to understand some basic safety rules.  They also need to develop empathy for others. To learn both of these, the answer is simple – they need role models to show them.
 
You are probably already doing this. You show your child you care by keeping them as safe as possible. When you treat your child with kindness and respect, they learn to treat others with kindness and respect. Then when they have demonstrated compassion, you are providing the right type of positive reinforcement to encourage them to continue with this behavior.
 
One of our favorite children’s books is called Love You Forever. In this story a mother sings a lullaby to her young son throughout his life regardless of his behavior until, when she has grown too old to sing to him, he sings the lullaby to her and ultimately to his own child. It is a simple and loving example of how modeling behavior and compassion has a profound impact. Do you have an example of how you help your children develop compassion for others? If so, feel free to share in the comments below.
 

The Little Honey's Little Adventures book series is based on true stories from our early childhood growing up in Baltimore, Maryland in the late 1950s and early 60s. The stories are ultimately about unconditional family love as my sister, Tara, and I navigated our small world.

Our family was like many others from that era. Our father, Louis Eisenhauer worked outside of the home and our mother, Rosemary worked in the home. Sociologists describe this post World War II family structure as a response to the worldwide chaos of the war and its aftermath. Yet the post war family structure was a shift from the mid to late 19th century when many extended families lived together.

In The Icing Story, after Mommy and Angel put icing on her birthday cake, Angel goes to read a book and Mommy goes to do the laundry.  In our household, this is what happened.  Our father would leave for his job every day and our mother would stay home and care for us and do the household chores. But it was not a Leave it to Beaver or Ozzie and Harriet household.  Outside of work, our father was involved in the Civil Rights movement and outside of the home, our mother worked on her college degree and was involved with the League of Women voters.

But times really changed for many American families beginning in the late 60s and 70s and continuing to the present. Far more households included divorces, remarriages, and extended family structures. Stepparents, step-siblings, and half siblings became part of the norm. Interracial, inter-religious, interethnic, and same sex marriages added to the mix. In some cases, even good friends became part of the family structure. All of these changes have the potential to result in healthier and happier families.

After my divorce, I started hosting Prequel Thanksgiving dinners the weekend before Thanksgiving Day as a way for all my children, and extended family and friends to celebrate together without interfering and complicating their Thanksgiving Day plans. Like so many others, our celebrations often had a mixture of family related by blood and family who were not.  

Who will be at your Thanksgiving celebration and dinner this year?  Any other plans for gathering to celebrate with extended family or friends?  Favorite recipes to share?

​Have a very Happy Holiday season!
 
The holiday season is a joyous time to celebrate with family and friends but there are many in our community who are struggling to put food on the table and cannot afford necessities.  For this reason, Little Honey’s Little Adventures is donating to the Lighthouse Shelter in Annapolis as well as the Maryland Food Bank and Toys for Tots.
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​In The Beach Story, Little Honey finds herself enjoying a group of older children who were playing tricks on other people. Little Honey was too young to know how to limit the behavior and made a mistake. Little Honey realized her mistake and chose to spend the rest of her vacation playing with her older sister, Angel, rather than repeat her mistake. However, what are ways that parents can help once they realize their children are repeating or learning undesirable behavior from other children?
 
Often, a common refrain among parents is their children have fallen in with a bad crowd or they are behaving badly in order to fit in with their friends. One of the most important jobs teachers and parents have is to help guide children toward their independence and help them make decisions that are right for them without regard for how they may be viewed by others.
 
In order to do this, one thing to avoid is criticizing the other children which may result in having your child defend their friends and may even cause them to cling more tightly to the group of friends in question. It may also be necessary to accept that children choose their friends and like to be with those who are doing things they want to do. These “bad” children may be more similar to your child than you realize. In the Beach Story it is fair to say that Little Honey has a mischievous streak and she found the older children on the beach to be both stimulating and fun.
 
This doesn’t mean there are no tools which can help you guide your child. First, it is fine to occasionally point out that you don’t like the behavior which is being exhibited. Second, you can also provide a simple statement of how you don’t want your child to get into trouble for doing what their friends are doing. Third, It is reasonable to set boundaries on how much time your children spend with friends whose behavior doesn’t mesh with your values.
 
As always our “go to” approach is to use books to teach children these important lessons. The Wind in the Willows is a classic tale which features animal friends who help one of their friends find a safer path to follow that will keep him out of trouble. There are also many children’s books focusing on not following the crowd while showing it’s okay to be different. Do you have a favorite book that you read to your little ones to help them behave and find their own path? If so, feel free to share!
 

​For this month’s blog, we interviewed the Pappafotis children, our author’s four children. If you recall from a previous blog, these stories began as bedtime stories that our author told to her children when they were little. All four, Nick, Megan, Christina, and Mike, are adults now. And they had a lot to share!
 
1. What Little Honey story do you remember from your childhood? Was it your favorite? Why or why not?
Nick:
The Rock Story and the cherry pit in the nose story (not yet committed to posterity) because they were action packed and weird, respectively. My favorite ones, though, are The Baseball Story and The Beach Story because they are encouraging and funny respectively.
Megan:
I remember all the Little Honey stories - even ones that haven't been published yet (and some that never will be)! I do not have a favorite because these ARE my favorite stories from childhood. Stories we didn't like were simply not told again. The Little Honey stories were requested over and over, night after night. I loved hearing about Mom's childhood, imagining when she was a kid and the people we were familiar with as younger versions of themselves; acting as a mom instead of a grandma or as a sibling instead of an aunt/uncle. I also felt connected with the people that weren't around or that we didn't see everyday.
Christina:
It’s impossible for me to pick just one favorite so I’ll go with the most memorable which is The Icing Story. As a kid I loved hearing my mom describe how good that icing was and how much she loved icing because I also love(d) icing. However, it probably inspired my own icing story as a kid when I licked all the icing from the cinnamon rolls before my brother woke up and have some. I can distinctly remember thinking “this is okay because mommy did it”. 
Mike:
The Little Honey story that I remember the most is the story about the rock incident. Little Honey was playing with the neighborhood kids and they were throwing rocks at her, and one of them hit her in the head that caused an injury. I always remember this one because it actually helped me not to bully other kids in school, or any other place/situation. In fact, it helped me stand up for kids OR adults who are being bullied. So, never will I throw rocks at kids (just kidding).
 
2. How do you feel the Little Honey stories have changed now that they are written, illustrated, and published? 
Nick:
Well, they were never called the little honey stories when I was a kid; they were mommy's stories. These were not characters, they were actual people that I knew and loved. So each one was personal in a way that is hard to replicate for me in a book.
Megan:
Since these stories were told so many times, it didn't shock me to read a slightly altered version as the final product. Adding the illustrations though, made me feel like I was experiencing the stories for the first time! I had everything pictured in my head, from my mind, as a child. To see someone else's interpretation was amazing and a little surreal. 
Christina:
My mom and I just spoke recently about how the stories feel a bit different being written down. To state the obvious, there is definitely a difference from someone telling you a story from memory versus reading one from a book. Especially when it’s my mom as the storyteller. The books are very straightforward stories where when my mom would tell them she would take detours and add details. We could also interact with them by asking questions and my mom would be sure to add those details. Also there weren’t lessons at the end of the stories that probably had to be added given the example from above!  
Mike:
The biggest change would be the obvious; that you were able to transform real life stories from your childhood into these fantastic children books.  I wouldn't say the content has changed much (which is the most important), but the names and illustrations have, which is just the natural progression of any short story. 
 
3. Is there anything else you wish to share about the Little Honey stories?
Nick:
What I loved most about my mom's stories was that even at the end, when she had to leave and I had to go to sleep, I could replay the stories in my head, I could hear her voice, and it was like she was still there.  And that made the night a little less dark.
Megan:
I could talk about the Little Honey Stories all day. Just today, our PreK teacher read The Beach Story and a little girl in the class said, "Hey, I have that book at my house!"  I love that.  I love sharing a bit of my childhood by sharing a bit of my mother's childhood and having that be part of someone else's childhood.  
Christina:
The little honey stories are just so special. They connect you to a person who is one of a kind. As a kid I never thought much about why I loved hearing these stories I just knew I loved them and my mom would keep telling them as long as we asked. Looking back I think it was because it made me feel connected to my mom. My mom is such an incredible woman so I’m so happy to see that so many others will get to connect with her (including my children and eventually their children). 
Mike:
I would like to see some of the books begin with how the stories came about and even mention that these were told to your children. That's something that I will always remember.
 
 

In the Rock Story, Little Honey and Angel see some teenagers in the neighborhood throwing rocks at each other and that upsets Little Honey. This behavior is clearly wrong to her and she decides to take action despite being much younger and smaller than the children engaged in the activity. Little Honey ends up getting hurt when a rock inadvertently hits her in the forehead. But somehow her actions and her subsequent injury put an end to the offensive behavior.
 
Should Little Honey have taken that risk? There is not really a clear answer. The type of behavior that she witnessed was potentially a battle for social domination among the older children in her neighborhood. Little Honey was not a part of that battle. But Little Honey had learned from her parents - our parents - the importance of standing up for what you believe in. Our father had been a civil rights activist in the 60s and our mother fought for Baltimore’s neighborhoods.
 
A different response, one that is common, would be to just look away and ignore the problem. We may hope it will go away on it’s own or someone else will take care of it. However, we are beginning to realize that children’s voices can be a seed for change. At only 11, Malala Yousafzai began her campaign to improve educational opportunities for girls after the Taliban prohibited her education. As a result of speaking out against this, Malala became a target and was shot. But even that didn’t stop her from continuing to speak out and, perhaps in part due to her courage, the Taliban’s hard line position on limiting the education of girls has softened somewhat.
 
After 9/11, Homeland Security adopted their “See Something Say Something” campaign to encourage the reporting of suspicious activity. This supports the concept of speaking out whenever you see something wrong. Research has found that, at least in the transportation industry, this policy appears to have been quite effective.
 
Is this also effective when standing up to bullies and bullying behavior? Bullies are generally looking for power and may have a more authoritarian perspective on social hierarchy. But they also know that their behavior is unjust and morally questionable. And their bullying behavior may stem from a deep unanswered need inside of them.
 
Having allies helps when calling out bullies and/or inappropriate behavior. Little Honey may have felt more secure knowing that her older sister was by her side. She was also familiar with the teenagers that she stood up to. There’s no way to know for sure what fueled the dangerous rock throwing behavior in the older children. There’s also no way to be sure as to why their behavior changed. Perhaps it was because Little Honey asserted herself or because she ended up getting inadvertently hurt. Regardless, in this setting Little Honey felt the need and determination to speak up about the bad behavior and she ultimately got what she wanted.
 
Protecting our children and yet simultaneously encouraging them to stand up for what they believe in may not have to be at odds. It is our sincere hope that after reading our story, you will engage your children in honest and meaningful conversations as to when and how to respond to the bad behavior of others. There are now many children’s books out there to help guide parents and teachers that may be worth exploring. What advice do you give to your children about calling out inappropriate and/or bullying behavior?
 
 
 

​Authors and writers often change or add to real stories for effect, all of which is part of “poetic license”.

The Little Honey stories are no different.  All the stories are based on true events about little vignettes from our childhood.  Originally, the stories were only told at bedtime in a last ditch effort to get my young children to fall asleep, but early in the writing process, I added conversations to the stories. These conversations are not the exact words spoken at the time but definitely very near to the exact thoughts.

Also, another early decision was made to include my brother, Drew as Baby Tru, in all the stories although in real life, he is 7 years younger than me.  Likewise, while all the stories take place in the same setting on Digby Road in Baltimore and Little Honey and Angel remain the same ages of 4 and 5 years old, some of the stories occurred elsewhere and when we were older.

The Back Story, The Rock Story, The Watermelon Story, and The Fish Story are all very nearly exactly as the events unfolded in real time over 60 years ago; however, two of the Stories, The Baseball Story and The Peanut Story occurred a bit later in time chronologically.

The Baseball Story occurred over two summers in 1964-65 when I was 8 and 9 years old and by then, my family had moved to Piccadilly Road in Towson. But what occurred really did happen almost exactly as in the story and I really did hit that home run and many other home runs, too.

The Peanut Story occurred a year later in 1966.  At the time, our family lived in England but everything else about the story is true.  Years later when I told my children the story, the Peanut Story became a story inside a story.  A literary device sometimes called a “Metadrama” is used in several of William Shakespeare’s plays including A Midsummer’s Night’s Dream and Love’s Labour’s Lost.

BUT the real secrets lie in two popular stories: The Icing Story and The Beach Story.

In The Beach Story, after trying to keep up with the big kids and play tricks, Little Honey locks one of the outside shower doors but she ends up locking the shower door of her own Mommy! In the story, Little Honey confesses to Mommy right away that she was the one who locked Mommy in the shower. But in fact, that’s not what happened. Mommy never knew who locked her in the shower until she read the Beach Story 40 years later and learned that it was Little Honey - aka me - who locked her in the shower.  By then, Mommy thoroughly enjoyed the Beach story and laughed at the quandary of her own daughter.

And then there’s The Icing story when Little Honey licks the icing off Angel’s birthday cake not once but TWICE.  In the story, Little Honey confesses to Mommy quickly that it was she who licked off the icing. But the truth? I did not admit licking the icing until I was much older-20 years older.  I did not admit it even after all the years of playful insinuations and even after all the birthdays when my father would amusingly say to me: “You know someone has already licked the icing on the cake so you can do it too, now.”  Instead, I finally decided to come clean before the birth of my first child. In my defense, the icing on Angel’s birthday cake really was the most delicious chocolate icing in the whole entire world and for the record, licking icing has become a requirement in our household and a folk legend in our family.
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What is your favorite “Icing” or “Beach” story from your childhood?  Have you told your parents? Have you told your children or grandchildren?

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This month we interviewed Baby Tru – now far more than two. We hope you enjoy his recollections and updates!
 
1. If you have any recollection of the stories in the Little Honey books, how does your memory differ from the stories?

Wow, so Little Honey and Angel have been writing seven books for seven years about a time 70 years ago!  (Just kidding, it wasn't that long ago!) But all of us with happy childhoods can't help but think back on things that stood out--and help us to remember our family that have helped make us who we are today.
 
Except, I don't remember anything because Baby Tru was just a baby!!!  Except for ONE story: The Peanut Story. I remember the peanut story because Little Honey told it to me when she was babysitting me one day. (OK, I guess I do remember some things after all because I also remember the pine tree in the backyard where Little Honey hit her home run in The Baseball Story!!)
 
Our father was a professor and when his students had to take tests, they were given a little book stapled together with a light blue cover and white, blue-lined writing paper inside. These were called bluebooks, and he brought home old ones for us to use as scrap paper for drawing and coloring.
 
I am not sure if I remember the first time Little Honey told me The Peanut Story, but I remember when she wrote it down in a bluebook and drew my friend the peanut on the cover. Little Honey and Angel liked to make little drawings, particularly of Mr. Spock all over their school notebooks!
 
So I was so excited when they told me they were going to publish The Peanut Story. Finally a story about Baby Tru! They asked me for some old photos of Baby Tru. But when the book came out, all the illustrations in the book show Baby Tru with the face of my own son Magnus! There goes my fifteen minutes of fame!  Well, there's always a new Baby Tru!
 
I can also tell you the story about the time Angel brought me to the YMCA with her friend, Big Tru; He let me play with a real, battery-powered megaphone. Then I shouted to the people way far away on the baseball field using the megaphone and interrupted their baseball game, and Big Tru took the megaphone back.
 
I can also tell you the story of when Little Honey taught Baby Tru to ride a bicycle.  Baby Tru could only ride a bicycle with little training wheels; he didn't know how to balance on a big bicycle. So Little Honey held the back of her big, two-wheeled bike and let me pedal and steer the handlebars. It was the first time I'd ever been on a bicycle with only two wheels! 
 
On our street there was a big hill, and Little Honey said she would run down it with me holding on to the bicycle, but you know Little Honey is a little trickster sometimes. I started going down the hill riding the big, two-wheeled bicycle! I felt safe, though, knowing Little Honey was holding on. It was so fun--I was going faster and faster with only two wheels!  
 
But soon I knew I must be going too fast for Little Honey--she must have been forced to let go in the middle of the hill somewhere as we were going down, so I risked looking backwards for just a second.
 
But Little Honey wasn't halfway up the hill, or a quarter-way up the hill; no, she was all the way back at the top of the hill!!  She'd just let me go at the very beginning!  I rode down the whole hill by myself and even rode on some of the flat part of the street at the bottom --and no training wheels! It was so much fun!! And today I can still ride a bike without training wheels!
 
2. You now have a "Baby Tru" of your own. He has now outgrown the books but what was his response to the stories when he was younger?
 
We used to read the Little Honey stories to Magnus every night before he'd go to sleep along with all the other children's books and he would often request different ones. I think his favorite was The Watermelon Story. Many of our friends who were having kids at this time also read to their toddlers from the Little Honey stories.
 
3. You are a writer and have your own blog. Tell us a little bit about that.
 
I started a blog on Medium.com last year called "Translated from the American..." about my experiences living in France.  The title comes from the fact that, despite everyone who corrected you when you were little to say you speak "English" not "American," books translated into French actually say that and specify on the title page if the book was "traduit de l'anglais" or "traduit de l'américaine." 

​In our book, The Fish Story, the furnace broke down in the little white house on Digby Road during a very cold winter night. Little Honey and Angel cuddled in to keep warm but, in the morning, they discovered their big sister Cissy’s little goldfish appeared to have frozen to death. The three little sisters were devastated. Wanting to cheer up her children, Mommy placed the fishbowl in a warm oven. The entire family was surprised to find “Goldie” swimming happily in the bowl once it was removed from the oven.
 
This is a true story and my sister and I remember clearly the sense of astonishment and excitement we felt as little girls when the goldfish appeared to miraculously come back to life. We now know that goldfish can thrive in relatively cold water and will become dormant if the temperature of the water drops below 60 degrees for any period of time. But as children, our innocent view of life supported a sense of awe about the workings of the world and the miracles and magic that were an intricate part of that world.
 
As adults we often lose that sense of wonder as we seek to control our environment. Because of our experiences with pain and tragedies, over time we become more wary and fearful of negative outcomes. However, it’s possible to reconnect with our inner child and find the charm in every day life again. Rather than wait for the universe to provide us with external evidence of its marvels, we need to give ourselves permission to believe that life is magical, mysterious, and miraculous - and then those beliefs will reflect directly back to us.
 
A book I loved as a child was Tom’s Midnight Garden. In this book, a young boy, Tom, is sent from his home and family in order to quarantine him and keep him safe. He is lonely and depressed living with his aunt and uncle. But the garden he discovers and visits each night at midnight fills his need for friendship and mystery. Do you remember any books that you read as child that filled your heart with hope and a belief in magic? If so, feel free to comment below!